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How Social Media Can Ruin Romantic Relationships And What You Can Do About It

February 12, 2021 By Jessica Garcia

Growing up in the age of social media can be both a blessing and a curse depending on how you manage it. On the plus side, you can use social media to communicate and network with different people around the world. You can also raise awareness on issues that matter to you and use it as an outlet for your creativity. On the flip side of that, you might get caught up in the harmful habit of comparing yourself to what you see on social media, or might get wrapped up in harsh arguments in the comments section. 

Not only can social media have an effect on your life, but on your romantic relationships as well. Here’s how… 

It can cause jealousy and insecurities to arise.

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Small actions like your partner following someone new, liking a photo, or leaving a comment can be interpreted as flirting. Maybe to your partner it’s not considered flirting, but to you it is, and that’s where the jealousy, discomfort, and insecurity starts to boil up. There’s a lot of blurred lines on social media, which is why it’s important to always communicate with your partner about what you’re okay with and what you’re not okay with. Set. Those. Boundaries.

It can create unrealistic expectations.

Depending on who you follow and what type of content you’re constantly consuming on social media,  there’s a chance of falling into the harmful habit of comparing your romantic relationship to the picture-perfect relationships you see on your phone. This can lead to unrealistic expectations, which is why it’s important to you remind yourself that folks only post on social media what they want you to see. Chances are, no matter how perfect a couple may seem in every photo and video they upload, they’re also dealing with problems in their relationship that you just don’t know about. 

So how can you end this harmful habit? Boundaries. Double check the list of people you follow on social media and ask yourself if their content is bringing you more hurt than happiness. 

It can take away from quality time with your partner.

If you find yourself spending too much time on social media instead of being in the moment with your partner, it might be worth setting a time limit on your social media apps. At the end of the day, the most meaningful interactions and experiences in life are the ones that happen in person, so enjoy them!