It’s safe to say that the year 2020 hasn’t been the same as other years. With a global pandemic and social injustices coming to light every day, there’s no denying that this year has been exhausting, challenging, and extremely difficult. However, in many ways this year has also been a huge eye opener. It’s pushed people to stand up against what’s wrong and has served as a reminder to appreciate your loved ones because life is short.
With the holidays around the corner, you’ll now have an opportunity to do both: stand up against what’s wrong and appreciate your loved ones. 2020 is the year to call people out on their racist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, and flat out hateful remarks – especially if it’s people close to you who you love. While having these conversations can be scary and uncomfortable, it’s these types of conversations that lead to change and growth. At the end of the day, it all starts at home and here are a couple of clapbacks that will help prepare you.
To begin with, it might be a good idea to point out the difference between political disagreements and basic human rights.
If a family member decides to make a remark on your outfit being “too sexy” or “too revealing”, clap back at them with this response:
The commonly used phrase of “well if they don’t want to be disrespected, then they shouldn’t dress like that” is not okay. Everyone deserves common respect no matter how they dress.
Now, what if you have a transphobic uncle who says Trans people shouldn’t be allowed to use the bathroom of the gender they identify with? Go ahead and rebuttal them with this information:
If your family is open and willing to learn, then hopefully they’ll gain a better understanding of what gender is and how gender can be fluid. Unfortunately, there are some folks who choose to ignore all facts and information if it doesn’t align with their personal beliefs, and that’s the sad part.
Speaking of gender, if there’s someone in your family who absolutely hates the term “Latinx”, it might help to explain why the word is used in the first place.
At the end of the day, if someone doesn’t like the term “Latinx”, the simple solution is for them to just not say the word. Bashing other people who use the term because they want to be gender inclusive is simply unnecessary.
Also, saying the n-word if you’re not Black is not cool. So if you hear one of your little cousins saying it, please ask them to stop.
Just like the TikTok user said, there’s no more excuses for the use of this word if you’re not Black. They might tell you, “Well it’s just a word.” And yes, it is a word, but it’s a word that carries so much hate, harm, pain, and discrimination towards the Black community. Language is powerful, and it doesn’t take much of an effort to just try not to say it, right?
Now, what if you have a non-Black family member who is often styling their hair in box braids just for the look and aesthetic? Now is the time to teach them about a little something called cultural appropriation.
It’s all a learning process. Even though hair might not seem like a big deal, it is when it’s tied to someone’s culture.
And if they come back at you with “Well, it’s just hair. Why does it matter so much?”, you can show them this video in response:
So many times Black people have been disrespected and shamed for their hair, so when they see non-Black folks using Black hairstyles simply for the appeal, it comes off as ignorant and disrespectful.
You might even have an aunt or uncle who claims climate change and global warming aren’t real. If that’s the case, you can drop this knowledge on them:
So many times the earth has been throwing pretty big hints at us that climate change and global warming is in fact real. Whether people choose to pay attention or ignore it will ultimately determine how much more the earth has left to live.
Strength comes in numbers, so maybe you can give your family a couple of tips on how to live a more sustainable lifestyle. This way, you can all put in the effort together as a family.
The more you call out your family on issues like the ones mentioned above, the higher the chance of there being actual change and positive growth. Some of them will hear you out and some of them won’t, but what matters is that you tried, and that in itself is something.